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Why Choose betruebu?

We recognize and honor you as the beautiful, intelligent, and often under-served
being that you are.

It’s A Place To Be Yourself

We help meet the social needs of LGBTQ women of color by giving you a place to be yourself, and be appreciated for every part of who you are.

We’re Reducing The Frustration

Our goal is to reduce the frustration of having to date the same women in the same circles, and of meeting women not available or willing to live their truth.

Meet Proudly “Out” Women Like YOU!

betruebu is not necessarily about you finding "the one,” but about giving you several opportunities to meet women who are proudly “out,” who can add to your quality of life through dating, or through newfound friendships.

Meet & Connect

with beautiful “out” women like YOU today!


How We’re Different

No Hiding.
No Games.
Everyone you’ll meet on BeTrueBU is already “out.”
One Price.
Full Access
There are NO EXTRA FEES, now or ever to communicate with other members.
We Speak Your
We specifically understand the needs of the African American market.
Be As Serious As
You Want
BeTrueBU isn’t about meaningless “hookups”.
Not Just About
There are many ways to interact w/women on the site for chatting.
Removing The
Every profile has a picture and is filled out. We’re in this.
We’re More
Monthly online speed dating sessions are FREE to members.
Avoiding the
BeTrueBU is specifically tailored not to be a “swipe left” community.
No Labels &
Be YOU, whoever that is. We promise to value it, as a community.

Did You Know

We provide extra help for you to reach your goals! Increase your views and response rate by having us review your profile.

We’re committed to your success and happiness at betruebu!

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with beautiful “out” women like YOU today!

S. Crenshaw, Founder

S. Crenshaw, Founder


Why We Exist

When I first conceptualized this site, it was because, as an African-American lesbian, I wasn't meeting the type of women I wanted, either in person or online.

As I began to research, I realized this issue was so much bigger than me.

On OKCupid for instance, African Americans are chosen just 13% of the time. Black LGBTQ women lacked an outlet: a comfortable, common “meeting place” where we could be ourselves, and make lasting connections.

I also noticed many women wanting relationships...but only “in secret.” While their reasons for secrecy are legitimate for them, in real life, that atmosphere often results in heartbreak. How can a relationship last...if the focus is on proving it doesn't exist?

Relationships are hard enough. Having them in the dark makes it harder. betruebu celebrates those of us that want to...

Love... in the light.


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